Sh!t Happens: Betrayal Trauma & Infidelity
A partner did something that went against the agreed upon acceptable behavior in the relationship, whether it was mentally, emotionally, or physically/sexually. This broke trust and resulted in the other partner feeling betrayed. This can be cheating/infidelity, sharing a secret, being caught in a lie, etc. I provide a safe space to rebuild trust and intimacy, work through any trauma, work through any resentment or hurt, learn why they choose to engage in that behavior (it is a choice, not an accident), and set your relationship up for success so it is unlikely it will happen again. Relationships can come out stronger than before as long as you are both willing to work on it.
Building Connection
These are the day-to-day things that will help keep your relationship going. They seem like small things but you can feel when it is missing. If you used to have a spark, but it feels like it fizzled out, then connection building is what you need. I can teach you how to reconnect and the skills to keep the connection going on your own. This is the fun part! If you're slightly freaking out because you realize building connection requires you to be vulnerable, then we can work on that in therapy too. We can take it slow and heal any trauma on the way if necessary.
Non-Monogamy, Polyamory, & Alternative Relationship Dynamics/Identities
Assist in navigating the unique challenges present in relationships other than monogamy. I have both professional and personal experience in navigating topics such as kitchen table poly, manifesting different attachment styles with different partners, navigating interactions with metamours, boundaries, kink (24/7 dynamics), marriage, divorce, opening a previously closed relationship, etc.
Conflict Resolution & Communication
Learn the tools for effective conflict resolution, to address the issues constructively, stop replaying the same fights over and over, how to use conflict to come closer together, how to "fight fairly," and how to repair after conflict. Learn how to communicate your preferences and needs, and if you don't know what you need I can help you figure that out. Let's replace negative communication styles with positive ones.